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That post lay fallow for about two weeks, and then people started noticing it. A deluge of angry responses followed. Rabbi Pruzansky was accused of victim-blaming, of not taking rape seriously, and of not understanding that marital rape exists.
His conclusion was clear. That was and is my point. The fruitless debate over statistics aside, I would hope that even the professional feminists can subscribe to that. The reaction to these blog posts was loud, although, strikingly, much of it was only semi-public; posted to social media, on Facebook, in widely circulated emails.
Stories about the posts have made it into the local press, and into British papers too; the Independent and the Daily Mail both reported on it online. More than 30 local Orthodox institutions already have signed on, and Bnai Yeshurun is to host it. Rabbi Pruzansky in fact will not speak; now the battle is over where the conference is to be housed.
The Rabbinical Council of America, which represents a large number of centrist and modern Orthodox rabbis, and of which Rabbi Pruzansky has been a vice president, has been pressed to take a position. Of major concern here were the sensitivities involved, and the pain of those who have been hurt by others. David Cheifetz of Teaneck, who was sexually abused when he was a child, is a strong advocate for victims of sex abuse.
And we also know that on occasion he has delved into American politics in a way that some might take umbrage at — and others may not. He was getting into a topic that does get written about in right-wing circles, but someone could make the same intellectual arguments about the culture of rape and the risk of accusing someone wrongly without offending rape victims.
But he, on the other hand, essentially put the onus on women, and on rape victims, in a way that is completely unacceptable and offensive. It shows tremendous ignorance of the complexity of the emotional mindset and manipulation in many instances of rape and abuse. As an individual person, I can get up and say any moronic thing that I want to say. But he is not an individual person. He is the rabbi of an influential synagogue.
He used to hold a leadership position in the RCA, and he is still a member in good standing. In any society? What does it take for people to say dayenu? Online response to the statement has not been as kind; many Facebook comments dissect its wording and find it wanting.
We have to be careful about how we are teaching our young people to talk, and to relate to each other. We should be talking about issues of modesty and the importance of respect and love and entering a relationship in a mindful, religious way.
Instead, he contributed to the lack of respect and understanding between the sexes. That is the opposite of what we are trying to do. I went there for years, for the very same reasons — for very good reasons.
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